One of the things that has surprised me most about blogging has been the community that I have built up and the friends that I’ve made. I put a lot of value on my friendships with other fashion bloggers, and I want to talk a little bit about why; and why it’s important for you too to reach outside your friend group.
My two best friends are women who I adore beyond measure, Maddie my best friend since the 8th grade, and Sarah who is my sorority little sister who I met in my third year of university. Along with these two women I have my friend group of university friends and lawyer friends. What I have been lucky enough to add to my life these past few years has been ‘blogger friends’. Most of these women are women I talked to online for months (if not years) before meeting in person – having met online through various blogger facebook groups or instagram DM groups. There are a number of these blogger babes who I now consider to be friends. Pictured here are some of them including Jessie, Kristina, Jess, Lily, Keyma & Candace.
These are women that I see rarely (some only once a year at fashion week) but who I value so deeply for multiple reasons:
I value these women so much because of how different we all are. It wasn’t until I became friends with them that I really started thinking about adult friendships. Adults tend to find themselves with the groups of people they’ve been friends with for years; and usually these people live in the same area as each other, have the same socio-economic status, and just are very similar to one another.
What I love about having blogger friends is that I get to have friendships that break that pattern. My blogger friends range from ages 21 – 40. They live in Texas, Oregon, California, NY, Illinois and Florida. Their careers range from stay at home mom, to broadcast journalist, to full-time fashion blogger. There are Democrats and Republicans, women who believe in God, & women who don’t. The backgrounds of these women could not be more different from one another and yet because of this enigma that is ‘fashion blogging’ we’ve had the opportunity to meet and become friends.
It’ easy to surround yourself with people who share your exact ideas and values, stemming from shared backgrounds and experiences. The gift that having blogger friends has given me is that I now have people whose experiences are nothing like my own that I can learn from. I’ve got a ton of different perspectives on how to respond to a work issue, or what to make of texts from a guy I like. It has been such a privilege to have different voices I can go to to better understand a situation – and in turn, better understand myself.
I also think fashion bloggers can get a bad rap as being dumb or vapid. In my own experience I cannot tell you how wrong that is. While, yes, we can spend hours talking about shoes or our favorite mascara, we also talk about issues like the Kavanaugh appointment, or what needs to be done about climate change. I’ve learned so freaking much because I’ve been able to hear perspectives and ideas completely different than my own and for that I am just eternally grateful.
I would urge each and every one of you to make friends outside your friend group for this reason. Find a way to meet people you wouldn’t otherwise have the opportunity to know. A great way is to join a club for a specific hobby. That way you have the shared interest but not everyone there will be as similar to you as your usual friend group.