You guys have been asking for me to share more of Alex and our relationship here on LLB so I thought a relationship Q&A would be the perfect way to do that. I asked over on my instagram for what questions you would like answered and I picked out the most frequently asked questions and a few really poignant questions for us to answer in this post.
I’ve also got to give a huge thank you to Alex for being willing to do this post with me. His support of my blogging seriously knows no bounds and I am so grateful.
Lee: We met online dating, on Hinge! It was my second time trying online dating (man oh man did I have some horror stories lol) so I was pretty skeptical, but I matched with Alex the first week I was on and the rest is history! For anyone single and getting tired of online dating, give it a break but don’t give up! When you come back you never know, you may meet your person. 😊
Alex: Lee was away visiting her family in Ontario after we started dating. We were FaceTime’ing every night for over an hour and even though it was beautiful summer weather when I got off work the only thing I wanted to do was FaceTime with her and that’s when I knew that I loved her.
Lee: I knew he was something special after the first date (it was a six hour first date- we just couldn’t stop talking and stayed until the restaurant/bar was closing!) But I didn’t fall in love with him right away. He made his feelings pretty obvious early on (I always joke about how he fell in love with me after two weeks, which isn’t far off lol!) and for me I knew I loved him after our first fight. I don’t even remember what it was about now, probably something dumb, but I remember how he treated me with such respect and kindness and was so willing to hear me out and to work on the issue. I was so floored by his kindness, his maturity and his support and I knew then that I loved him.
Alex: How much Lee cares about other people.
Lee: Such a tough one, he’s honestly one of the most admirable people I’ve ever met. From his moral compass to his kind heart. If I have to pick one thing though I’d probably go with his dedication. Whether it’s to a work project, to being a good friend / family member, or even a home reno project. He just really dedicates himself to something and I admire it so much!
Alex: I feel like this one should be COVID and non-COVID! For COVID – being a tourist in your own city! As long as you’re allowed out in your city, go explore parks, restaurants etc. or go to a farmer’s market, buy fresh ingredients and cook a meal together.
For non-COVID times, a cocktail crawl! Pick a cocktail that you both like and go to three or four places to try it and decide whose is best! You can also do the same thing with pizza. Mmmm pizza.
Lee: I second the drink or food crawl idea! I like that it gives you an ‘activity’ beyond just grabbing dinner or a drink.
Alex: Don’t sweat the small stuff and try your best to think before you speak.
Lee: Listen to the other person. Listen to the small concerns so you can address them before they become big ones. Also I’m a huge proponent for making sure you don’t loose yourself in a relationship. Keep up your own interests and spend time (sometimes) with your friends without your partner. Not only does it give you and your partner more to talk about it makes you appreciate them and the time you spend with them more.
Alex: Yes. I’ve always wanted to get married and have kids and now I’ve finally found my person to do that with.
Lee: Awww, he’s such a sap. I love it! As far as marriage; yes! … and likely in the not so distant future, so stay tuned 😉
As far as kids, also yes! I’ve wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember. I have a distinct memory of coming home from Kindergarten telling my parents I was going to have 10 kids with my classmate Ross Martin before proceeding to list off all 10 names which I had already picked out. LOL. It’s also probably worth noting that 4 were named after the ninja turtles. *shakes head in embarrassment*
So, in short, yes we definitely plan on having kids. I’d like 3 and Alex wants 2 or 3, so we’ll see what the universe has in store for us.
*side note from me: Alex is also a lawyer but while I do criminal defense he is an intellectual property lawyer.
Alex: It’s interesting because I don’t see us as in the same profession. It’s similar enough that we can understand what the other person does and the challenges they may have but it’s not like we’re competing or doing the same thing.
Lee: I echo that. I’ve always said that criminal law is an entirely different field from pretty much anything else in law, so much so that I’m surprised it’s even considered the same profession!
Alex: One lesson I’ve learned from Lee is to value family and make time for them, especially young kids (nieces and nephews). I feel like people often talk about taking time for their kids but Lee has really shown me the kind of incredible relationship you can have with nieces and nephews. It’s shown me the sort of relationship I want to have with my family.
Another lesson is to not be afraid to do what you want. It sounds vague but Lee inspires me with how many things she’s been brave enough to just do – from living in California and east Africa to pursuing different careers. It’s a great lesson I wish I’d learned earlier.
Lee: The biggest lesson is probably to accept and embrace my emotions. That it’s okay when I get angry (it’s all about how you express it in a healthy way), it’s okay that I cry at the drop of a hat, and it’s okay that I have a boatload of loud energy 95% of the time.
Lee: ^ I second that lol. He’s a way better cook.
Alex: Finding a place for all the shoes!
Lee: LOL at that ^. He’s not wrong. We didn’t have any real challenges though, just the usual adjusting to how another person does things and finding what worked for us as a couple and not two separate individuals. Things like what time to set the alarm for, where to store things in the kitchen, etc.
Alex: Best – how I always get lots of cute photos of her!
Worst – she always working!
Alex: Messiness! We have different standards of cleaning up for sure.
Lee: This is going to sound SO petty, but hear me out … how he chews carrots. LOL. The man LOVES carrots, he eats them every single day and I swear I have a mild case of misophonia (where you can’t handle chewing) so it’s one of those things that I’ve had to learn to deal with. Sometimes i just need to leave the room if he’s eating.
Alex: We were on a press trip in Seattle for Lee’s blogging and we’re going to a restaurant for dinner. We got there and mentioned how they may have been expecting us and the waiter said “oh you’re the one in the photo!” And I thought he was joking but he went on to say “you’re Lee from the blog! We have your photo in the back”. He then proceeded to go to the back and emerge with a headshot and bio of Lee. It was such a strange experience, and Lee was so embarrassed which only made it funnier to me! I teased her about it for weeks!
Lee: I’d have to say when we were on a trip on July 6th and got to the hotel… only to realize Alex had booked the hotel for July 6th 2021 and the hotel was actually full that night. It was the end of a long and ridiculous day and we laughed way too hard as we wandered around trying to find a new hotel.
That or when we got caught walking to our car in a freak hail storm in July!
Alex: Similar: Taste in music
Dissimilar: Taste in books (I like science fiction, Lee likes books about relationships and people)
Lee: Similar: Our positivity/bubbly-ness , our love of friends and family, and our love of travel
Dissimilar: Our tidiness (I’m a slob, he’s a clean freak) & our patience (he has the patience of saint, I have next to none)
And that’s all! Phew, that was a long one! I hope you guys enjoyed it. Thanks for reading and come back tomorrow for another blog post!